Well, I thought it was unconditional love Meaning-loving and wanting only that person for the rest of your days. Meaning-being intimate with that person and no one else.

Well, I was told the other day that unconditional love is sharing your loved one with others while you stay in love with him or her. Meaning-to not be jealous, to give your love as if you were in the 60's during the free love era.

I know my grandmother told me that she met my grandfather and knew that she wanted to be with him for the rest of her life and no one else. That is what I was raised to believe.

I figured I was going to fall in love with one man for the rest of my life, we would grow old together. We would love and be with no one but each other, as my grandparents did so long ago. I believe I did that.

My grandmother also told me that when a couple decides to marry the couple forms a union to uphold and that their single, wild lives are forgotten.

Now, I see couples becoming intimate with other couples or bringing in a single person in their bedroom. What does this mean? Does it mean that our marriages aren't the way they used to be, and the couples aren't getting their needs fulfilled? Does it mean that the couples, or one spouse didn't take the time to sow all his or her wild oats before they form this union with their spouse?

I have always been puzzled about this. I hear so many stories about this issue. One partner wants so badly to play around as if he or she is single, but still wishes to remain married to his or her spouse. He or she convinces his or her spouse to join in. The spouse only does it because he or she loves their partner.

In actual fact, if the spouse wishes for his or her partner to play around as a couple or by himself or herself isn't it true that the person should not have gotten married in the first place? From what I understand the devil is tempting this person to do this and the love that he had for his or her spouse, is badly clouded by desire for others.

Now that computers and the Internet are available, couples and singles can get online and test their imagination for sexual gratification. A lot of people think it is innocent to do this but sometimes it doesn't stop there. The person or persons get together and meet to fulfill their fantasies. Some of these people are from marriages, and their spouse is unaware that this is happening. I know in the Bible adultery is adultery in all forms. People do not realize the actual harm that happens from these acts. Do you realize that the spouses that go along with these games or the spouses that are unaware end up getting hurt in the end.

Marriage is not a game. It is for two people to form a union together as one to grow together, to mature together, to form a family, a home, and take on the responsibility for the whole unit. Most of all marriage is a commitment to love that person for all time.

Can you really condone this promiscuous behavior in your loved ones? Do you really think that no one will get hurt? Playing games with peoples' hearts is the last thing we should do. Do you wonder why in this society that people are getting divorced so quickly? No one seems to know what real love is these days. No one understands what monogamy and commitment mean? Do you?